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Monday, January 26, 2009

It's the Little Things

Chompers
Brady has molars (along with a couple more upper teeth) coming in and he is back to biting, drooling, and chewing on everything. I caught him standing in his crib and running his front teeth (all 8 of them) from one end of the front crib rail to the other! He's also taken up grinding his front teeth together for the purpose (I think) of hearing the horrid grating/screeching sound it makes, which is kind of like nails on a chalkboard.

He packed this granola bar around in his mouth (and only in his mouth) for a good two hours one morning. It was pretty funny. Who needs a dog? ;)



Yum-Yum


We've had a major breakthrough in our house today! Brady just ate a piece of toaster french toast, complete with butter and a smidgen of syrup!!!! I'm dancing in my slippers! Okay, I know, he's 13.5 months old, so what's the big deal? I've been having a devil of a time getting Brady to eat chunky food without gagging and/or spitting it right back out. And if he gags on something then not even the thought of that food will go back in his mouth during that meal. He will actually start crying if the spoon heads in his direction or I try to put a piece of whatever the vile stuff is in his mouth. Very ripe bananas and avocados usually are okay, but mac and cheese? No way! He shakes if off his fingers before it ever gets to his mouth! Same with any other pasta that I've tried as finger food. Cheerios? Sort of. He'll eat a few, then shake them off too. Puffs? Loves them! But as much food value as a piece of paper, which he has no problem stuffing in his mouth on almost a daily basis -- everything from kleenex to cardboard. And of course, any little thing he finds on the floor from tufts of carpet off the cat tree to needles that keep reappearing from the long absent Christmas tree to kibble out of the cat's dish. [UPDATE: I started this post over a week ago, so the current news is that Brady ate his first meal that hadn't gone through the food processor and that Mommy didn't spoon feed him! Ham, peas, and mashed potatoes! HALLELUJAH!!! Dinner took about 45 minutes, however, and the floor will never be the same. He is doing great with just about anything off the plate in bite-sized pieces now. Like someone flipped the "I can eat "big people food" switch! ]





Motor Skills


Two baby bottles of juice, two little cars, a rolling toy and a kleenex box, it really doesn't matter, any two things that can be held in the hands and slid across the floor while "walking" behind them has become the norm, rather than the hands and feet. So, I broke out the step-along toy. Brady loves it! He hauls booty too! I've tried it in the walking configuration, but it gets away from him on the hardwood, so for now pushing it backwards in riding mode will work just fine, thank you!




Brady took his first steps over a week ago. At least the first steps that I saw, but alas, camera was not at the ready. He was standing in the middle of the room and wanted a toy that was just out of reach. He took 3 steps and reached down for it. I've had reports from daycare that he has been "walking" there. Sort of wish they hadn't told me -- you do miss these little things when the majority of your child's waking hours occur in the presence of other people. I noticed his little (well, not so little really) feet have defined arches now. No more padded little baby feet!




Lovin' Daycare

I'm getting a bit of a complex. We are going through a weird stage where Brady is whining (uh-uh-uh, repeat about 100 times) ALL the time at home. Fusses during diaper changes, won't fall asleep in my arms any more, and screams if I'm in the shower and he is literally 2 feet away on the other side of a glass door. He wants me to pick him up, but then he wants down. He is moving constantly and won't hold still for our usual bedtime story either. He seems bored at home most of the time. But daycare?? He can't get enough of it and I think he would happily live there if he could. He literally squeals when we drive into the parking lot and practically bounces out of my arms with excitement as we go into his room. He could care less when I leave -- doesn't even notice. He does smile and come crawling when I arrive to pick him up, but I've been told he also does that with several of the teachers that come through his room as well. I'm not thrilled with the rotating teachers at daycare either, but I think that issue might settle down now, since (I believe) they fired his teacher today due to her absenteeism. He is also hyper, hyper, hyper when he gets home. I'm a little concerned that we are experiencing some attachment issues. I'm trying to spend more focused time with him when we are home, but it's hard to keep his attention. I know that can be normal at this age, but it has me worried. I'll see if the behavior continues for much longer.

9 comments:

Patrick & Eileen said...

I just can't get over your little guy!! Gosh, he's so cute!!! His hair is growing a lot too!

Well it sounds like you're going through a very fussy stage. I'm not sure when that ends? Audrey is a fussy to an extent too - she'll love to eat something one day and another day say, "no good." She likes elbow pasta as a side dish but picks out pasta in soup. She doesn't like mac n' cheese, nor quesadillas or grilled cheese....or even pizza! Kids...what are you going to do? ha ha

Not sure what to comment on about attachment issues. It's good that you're recognizing possible issues. It would be a good thing to note when you speak with is doctor (or IA doctor).

Great update....he's coming along well. How's mama doing?

Eileen

I love it that Brady took his first steps!

Jennifer said...

Wow, he's growing so much. And he's so beautiful. I know I've said it before, but I just adore his eyes.

Congratulations on the walking! Very exciting. And of course nothing below 3 feet is sacred anymore! :-)

Feel free to email me if you want to chat about stuff.

I loved the videos- thank you for sharing. It's great to hear his little sounds and see him motoring around!

Susan said...

Alysa..I am not there to see, but I don't think you have attachment issues..it's age and stage honey!
He is learning to walk..he is active and cuddling is boring to him right now!!
Since Leeza is not in daycare, I've had to keep her dance card full to keep her happy. On days we don't have Gymoboree or Kindermusic or something, we go outside or to the park.
I think it's just new found freedom for them and they want to explore, and home is boring. She has a million toys..but gets into trouble with the dog bowls, sean's stuff, my purse, whatever is not hers.
I'm sure he loves the other kids at daycare and playing-don't take it personally!!!

I wish I could give you a hug-but so much of what you are saying, I see in Leeza and I really don't think it has to do with attachment. I think as adoptive parents we get too worried about things and think that normal toddler related stages are "adoptive issues". They may be, or they may not be.

Leeza will not sit still and snuggle, only when I put her shoes on, but will go whiny and want to be carried around. It's a new phase.

I'm so glad he's eating better for you-that is wonderful. I am now cooking becauase Leeza is SUCH A GOOD EATER, but SEan hardly likes a thing I cook. I'm grateful for Leeza because at least she appreciates my efforts. :)

Whining is annoying-but part of their communication strategy. Hang in there...I think what you are experiencing sounds very normal.

email me or call me if you want to talk and I will be happy to share stories on my own Dennis the Mennace. :)

ps. I also have friends of kids who are older than Leeza, and went thru this exact same thing (not adopted either) so don't sweat it thinking you're alone..you're not. i promise!

wilisons said...

Alyssa,

So many changes and so much growth for this little guy.

Some thoughts about his new activity level and the suspected attachment concerns. First, ALWAYS go with your gut. I didn't with my first, listening instead to "experienced" moms and now feel as if I missed the boat.

Knowing that you faced some feeding issues, have you already consulted an OT or SLP? You may be seeing some sensory needs there. The sensory needs could also be overstimulating in day care. He might happy and excited while there and needs to vent after all the overstilmulation. My oldest has sensory needs and she was like this. Again, I wish I had put her in OT at 1 rather than waiting for 3.

With attachment issues, I can't stress the need to jump on any concerns ASAP. I would contact an attachment therapsit in your area to see if you can meet with them once. A good therapist should be able to observe your interactions and give an opinon and some ideas that will help guide your attachment. My oldest and I are in therapy for attachment concerns, going 18 months now. We still have a LONG way to go but I wish we would have faced this much sooner! My youngest and I have been observed by that therapist and they were able to see that she has no attachment concerns rather easily. Professional opinions help you sleep better at night if nothing else.

Best of luck,
Shanna
Tamar and Libby's mom

Susan and Robert said...

Wow, I can't believe how big he is!! He hardly looks like a baby anymore!! Boo hoo! I don't remember that happening so soon!

It must be something with the Ymit house. Leah can't eat normally either!! She pushes everything out with her tongue! Give me some hints on what works for you because I know I am going to be needing them also!

Kelly and Sne said...

I can't believe how much he's grown already! It's amazing how much their hair growing out can transform these kids too. He is SO cute! And congrats on the break-throughs. Especially the eating - that must have been a pain (we are entering the picky phase and I'm already about to pull my hair out).

I wouldn't worry too much about the attachment - just keep doing what you are doing. It took Miras 4-6 months before he really got cuddly at night and such. Now he enjoys it. You can play games where you stare at him (and make faces, etc.) or sit him on your lap for activities and bond that way too. Also, Miras gets really hyperactive (and get annoyed at hugging or cuddling) if he doesn't get enough sleep (and he needs a ton) so the hyperactivity may have something to do with that too. And, after a couple of days home with boring old Mom and Dad, Miras is also very happy to go to daycare. At this age they do need pretty constant entertainment... they have the attention span of a gnat!

Regina said...

Look at Brady go!!! Our little walker is growing up so quickly! Wow, he has changed so much. What a cutie pie...and look at his long hair! Thanks for posting videos...I love to see him in action. I just posted a couple of videos of Milo today.

I'm glad he has crossed the threshold with his eating of solid foods. I hope it keeps getting better. If not, consult with an OT. You can go through your state's Early Intervention program and it won't cost you anything. (I wrote about this on my blog.)

Regarding attachment, I would take the time to explore this further...just to be sure! It may be just a stage or simply his personality type, but IF there is attachment work to be done it's so much better to focus on it now than later. But I've been extra diligent about this aspect with Milo because I always worried there would be issues because he was 2 when he came home. We have an incredible bond already. It takes mindful work, but is worth it!

xoxo,
Regina

Baby Kaz Moore said...

Goodness, Brady has grown so much. The granola photo is adorable. That's one to pull out when he's 16 and misbehaving. And I love that smile. Thanks for posting photos and updates. It's enjoyable to catch up.

Ok, back to house chores. Take care, more later. Susan

The Casale Family said...

Yeah, a post. I haven't been checking for awhile, so what a welcome surprise.

I think the cutest thing, aside from the sound of Brady, is the happy sound coming from mama. You sound like you are just in heaven with him...who wouldn't be?

As for the, "looks like you are going to walk" He definitely looked like he was walking right there.

I think they all get bored and restless. We have to get out of the house constantly to avoid meltdowns. As for cuddling, no way for Andrew once he was mobile. He has better things to do with all that energy. Must explore everything.

Looks like things are going well with him. Good to hear an update. I think of you guys often.