From my soon-to-be ex-doctor, who, along with her staff and office notary are incapable of filling out and notarizing the very simple medical forms correctly that I need for travel:
"We will not be able to complete your adoption paperwork again... This paperwork is totally outside of our usual paperwork and it has taken an inordinate amount of my personal and my staff's time to complete. The details that are required for the paperwork are not standard and even a U.S. legal document would not require the details that you have expected from us. We are a medical office, we are not an attorney's office. We are unable to spend any more time on this issue."
All I asked is that they print the forms on letterhead, fill everything out, spell out the month when they write the date, and don't put the notary stamp over anything. Took them 4 tries to do it right for my dossier, and apparently it is impossible this time around. So, I have an appointment Wednesday and will pay (again) to see her, along with my notary, for what I hope is the last time. Wish me luck.
This is the story of my journey to adopt a child from Kazakhstan.
Welcome!
Welcome to my journey to Motherhood! I appreciate your interest and am thrilled to share this exciting and terrifying adventure with my family and friends.
-- Alysa
Little Precious
Fur Babies
Callie and Merlin
Aqtobe Time
Aktobe |
Aqtobe Weather
Polling Place
Timeline
- October 26, 2008, 4:38pm MDT -- Newest US Citizen
- October 26, 2008 -- Homeward Bound
- October 12, 2008 -- Left Aqtobe for Almaty
- October 7, 2008 -- We are family! (Gotcha Day)
- October 3, 2008-- Return to Kaz - Trip 3
- October 1, 2008 -- Adoption Decree signed by judge - You're mine!
- September 15, 2008 -- Kaz Court
- September 9, 2008 -- Return to Kaz - Trip 2
- August 9, 2008 - End of Trip 1
- July 22, 2008 -- I found you!
- July 19, 2008 -- On da plane to Kaz
- July 10, 2008 -- Letter of Invitation Received
- February 1, 2008 -- Dossier sent to Aqtobe MOE
- November 9, 2007 -- Aqtobe is my region!
- November 5, 2007 -- Dossier to Ministry of Foreign Affairs
- October 10, 2007 -- Dossier to Kaz Consulate in NY
- October 5 -- Dossier in translation
- October 2, 2007 -- Dossier FedEx'd to LMI!!!
- August 21, 2007 -- I171H (approval from US immigration) received!
- August 9, 2007 -- Homestudy submitted to USCIS.
- June 15, 2007 -- Homestudy completed again! Sent to USCIS -- Not!
- May 31, 2007 -- Homestudy completed. Not!
- March 2007 -- Signed agency contracts
- January-March 2007 -- Researched agencies, countries, etc.
- March - November 2006 -- decided to move out of CA, found and started new job, sold CA house, bought CO house, and moved!
- February 2006 -- Realized I needed a fresh start, whether or not I adopted
- October 2005 -- Started researching adoption
Favorite Adoption Blogs
Links to More Info
Kazakhstan
A Bit About Kaz
Kazakhstan is the largest of the former Soviet republics in size (after Russia) and is the ninth-largest nation in the world. It shares a border with Russia on the north and is west of China. Kazakhstan gained its independence from Russia in 1991, and although traditionally a nomadic and pastoral society, the current way of life and culture reflect strong Russian influences. Kazakhstan has a population of over 15 million people comprised of 46% Kazakhs, 35% Russians, 5% Ukrainians, 3% Germans, and the remaining 11% a mix of other European and Asian ethnicities. While Kazakh is the "state" language, nearly everyone is bilingual in Kazakh and Russian.
About Me
Yep, I'm 40-something and going to be a single first-time parent!
And yes, many nights (days, nights, and more sleepless nights) I think I may have just lost my mind! But, I'm also excited and am looking forward to all the challenges, thrills, sweet little moments, panic, hope, messes, joys, and mostly love that will be an everyday part of my life.
I've changed my life pretty dramatically in the past year (new job, new state, new house, new life!) in part because I wanted a fresh start, but also because doing so allowed me financially and emotionally to pursue adoption.
Most of you know that my mother had me at nearly 40 and raised me alone. And this was back when being a single mom, and especially an older single mom, was not a very acceptable thing to do. I'm sad that Mom will never know her grandchild, but I know she would be thrilled that I am doing this. From her I have learned independence, tenacity, resourcefulness, and that family is not defined by numbers or what society thinks it should be, but by love and support. Thank you, Mom, for setting the example that has given me the courage to follow, in my own way, in your footsteps.
6 comments:
Good grief, I'm sorry this is happening to you. My doctor's office messed it up twice, but they never took that attitude. Good luck!!
Good grief, I'm sorry this is happening to you. My doctor's office messed it up twice, but they never took that attitude. Good luck!!
Can you get in with another doctor? She doesn't sound like she is worth your co-pay. Doctors, Doctors, Doctors......
Whoa...sounds like she is an uncompassionate, incapable you-know-what. So sorry about this. It's such a pain even when your doctor is agreeable.
what a jerk! i hated asking my dr to do it,you feel bad enough asking them to do this stuff, and to take on that attitude with you-that stinks. I'm sorry.
we had to find a new dr cuz our dr's license expired in Jan, and we were doing our dossier the summer prior. We had to find a new dr, and he was great. Come to find out, he and his wife had adopted from China and they "got it"
jerky people are tough-and it's not like this is THAT much work-copy it on letterhead and spell the date out-it shouldn't take hours.
it might take 15 minutes.
I got my dr's office a gift card to panera (acccross the street from them) for $50 and then wrote them a thank you note.
maybe you can kill them with kindness and make them feel bad for their immaturity.
Just catching up on your blog and i had to laugh when i read this posting. I, too, had the same problems with my doctors office. My doctor's office went as far as to tell me that maybe I should get a new doctor because the doctor did not have the time to fill in my paperwork. I was so upset and wrote a very nasty note to the office and found a new doctor. I mean common the forms are pretty simple and after being their patient for 5 years they could do one simple thing for me. Geez!!!
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